Advice Column

Having a Blue Christmas? 5 Ways to Get Into the Holiday Spirit

You know the feeling. It’s already well into December, and the days are flying by. Christmas lights are sparkling on every house, Christmas trees are gleaming in every window, and everyone seems to radiate that festive holiday spirit – but you’re just not feeling it! The holidays only come once a year, so it feels like an awful waste to not make the most of the season. If the bad weather has you feeling more Scrooge-like than spirited, fear no more – we have 5 surefire ways (more…)

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Advice Column #1

How do you deal with having a crush that doesn’t like you back?

First things first, you can’t assume he doesn’t like you back. Unless he has physically told you he doesn’t like you, you have to keep your hopes up. Now, having that cleared, to deal with a crush that could possibly not like you back is to basically get him to like you. So flirt. Be the biggest flirt you can to your crush. Try new things to get yourself noticed by him or her. Also, don’t go too out of your way, because you have to also keep true to yourself. Remember to talk to him. Most people kind of just forget to talk to their crushes and get super nervous around them. Don’t worry my little friend, YOU GOT THIS!! (:

OR there is a completely different approach to dealing with crushes that don’t like you back, you could hang out with friends, read books, listen to music, or do what you enjoy and get your mind off of them.

 

How do I make time for homework when I dance till 9 pm

You could always do it after dance, but being a teenager myself I understand how hard it must be to concentrate after anytime that is ten. So my advice to you is that there is always tutorial time, lunchtime, or any spares you may have. I understand you may want to be with friends during that time, but since you have such a busy schedule, you have to fit homework in there somewhere… As important as friends are, homework still needs to be done, so doing it first gives you more time with your friends.

 

Should I join clubs at Churchill? Why or why not?

Clubs???? Of course you should!! Think of all the new friends you will be making, new experiences you will have and most importantly if there is a club for something you like, then you will be doing things that you love while learning new things. You also get recognized for things you do around the school that are not academic, and you get letters from the principal. (How cool is that?? It’s like you’re pen pals!! :0) Clubs are also a good way to know about events going on in the school.

 

I’m failing Math Candidate. Any tips for doing better?

Hi there buddy! First things first, I’m so sorry, because I know exactly what you are feeling. My math candidate marks are not so hot right now either, so all I can tell you is that you just really got to practice. There is also tutorial, like all teachers love telling you. But it all boils down to practicing and doing about a ton of questions, and keeping up with ALL of the homework. And if you miss a day, you need to catch up and know exactly what happened that day. So good luck my friend, and remember it’s not just you– all lot of people are failing.

– Kanti R.

3 Ideas to Happiness

In this topic, how do synthesis, economy, and smiling create a common denominator? I’m sure they seem familiar, but how can these elements result in a happier life? Or better yet, how do our brains define happiness when these words are presented?

Three different TED talks by Dan Gilbert; The Surprising Science of Happiness—2004, Michael Norton; How to Buy Happiness—2011, and Ron Gutman; The Power of Smiling—2011 stress on their ideas to live well—Happily, and how it relates to our present lives.

Author of: Stumbling on Happiness, Gilbert establishes that we are able to synthesis “fake” happiness over a period of time—with our evolutionary developed frontal lobes, rather than the belief that happiness is something to be found. Well in his talk, he presents happiness into two parts: The happiness we make when we do not get what we want (the inferior belief) vs. Natural happiness–when we do. If you believe the inferior belief it true like I did, you might want to check on the case studies that he presented as they turned out to be real head turners around how happiness is made.

Michael Norton in his TED talk opened with his idea by this quote: “Money can’t buy happiness, you’re not spending it right.” It battles around the subject between spending money anti-socially and pro-socially. Now which one do you think is happier? Well antisocial might seem like a negative connotation, but we spend money on ourselves all the time! Do we not all feel happiness when we buy ourselves the newest mp3 or Starbucks? Well according to Norton, self=nothing, selfless=happiness. Although I disagree with the idea that buying yourself a treat doesn’t create happiness, but there is something missing something lonely with self benefit. I define the success of teamwork, and partnerships not with cooperation—allies cooperate with each other too—I’d like to define it with acts of kindness. In this case we can provide pro-social happiness all the way from buying a friend Starbucks, to reaching our hands to bettering the world. So if you say money can’t buy happiness, maybe you aren’t spending it right.

Finally Ron Gutman introduces the power of smiling. Smiling, directly related to happiness, may seem redundant to discuss, but it is infectious, contagious, and unavoidable in many circumstances. In his mathematical equation to smiling, Smiling + Frowning= Smiling, so how does this work? Well we are born smiling as babies, sleep smiling as babies, and then we grow up our whole lives smiling. Pictures of smiles, in advertisements, TV, movies, and in humor there’s Comedy Central, jokes, pranks, and the king himself Charlie Chaplin. Smiles are everywhere! Children smile on average 400 times a day! While adults smile 20… now maybe these statistics aren’t as true at SWC, but it’s out there. So smiling increases happiness—like we didn’t know that already. But smiling also reduces stress hormones like cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine. It’s a long term method of happiness. Cliché as it sounds, we should start smiling more.

“I am the happiest man alive. I have that in me that can convert poverty to riches, adversity to prosperity, and I am more invulnerable than Achilles; future hath not one place to hit me.”                                                                                     –Sir Thomas Browne, Religio Medici (1642)

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