Don’t look back; you’re not going that way.
If only I had…I should have…I could have…We’re all guilty of this: looking skeptically at our past, thinking of things we could have done, wishing for things that we could change. But our past self isn’t our current self. We are now wiser and more experienced, with different morals, beliefs, and goals. So how can we use this current self to judge, to critique, the actions of someone of the past?
We all had reasons for our decisions. And sure, that reasoning might not have matched up to the reasoning we currently use, but that doesn’t rule out the fact that in the moment, that decision, that action had made sense. We need to remember that what happened has happened. Wishful thinking, chastising our past self isn’t going to change that.
Yet sometimes, when it’s far too late at night, we still think, our minds filled with regret: what could I have done in that moment to change the outcome of events? But life isn’t meant to be walked while looking backwards, so why are we viewing it that way? Every moment that we turn around, scrutinizing the past, we miss the things lying right in front of us on our path forward.
So leave the past in the past, face the future, and walk towards it. After all, that’s where your life is heading.
– Carline H.