We spend too much of our lives thinking that the things we feel are results –results of an unexpected event, results of a situation that didn’t turn out quite as well as we wanted it to, or results of an obstacle looming up ahead. We spend too long thinking that our emotions are decided by the good and the bad things that life throws at us every day. That the negativity we feel is the consequence of failure. That happiness is the blessing that comes from success.
But we’re wrong.
Happiness isn’t a result. It’s a choice.
We choose to be happy, to be sad, to be angry. We choose to feel all of our emotions. A bad day doesn’t make it impossible to be happy, it just makes it difficult. Just because you’re struggling right now doesn’t mean that life has denied you the right to be happy, it just means you’ll need to work harder to choose to be happy.
So breathe. Breathe and count to three. Think of all that you’re grateful for, and of moments that make you smile.
And I’ve heard, “Some people wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, and all life for happiness.” And to those people, I have one thing to say, “Don’t wait. Happiness doesn’t come floating to you. You’ll need to choose to get up, choose to run to it, and choose to grab it. But most of all, you’ll need to choose to never let it go.”